Frequently Asked Questions
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Getting Started & First Steps
Therapy Process
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Click the "Schedule a Consultation" button to schedule a free 15-minute phone call. We will briefly talk about what you or your relationship are experiencing, discuss how attachment-focused work can help, and see if we feel like a good fit. If so, we'll schedule your initial session and send your digital welcome packet.
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Our initial session focuses on getting to know one another and understanding your story and emotional history. We’ll explore the underlying patterns, fears, and attachment needs that shape how you relate to yourself and others, establishing a safe, non-judgmental space for our work together.
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If you frequently feel disconnected, anxious about relationships, stuck in repeating arguments, or find it hard to express your emotional needs, this approach is designed for you. Attachment therapy looks beyond surface-level symptoms to help you build deep, secure connections.
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I recommend, for individual or couples, that we start by meeting on a weekly basis to gain traction in our work. If at any point, you decide weekly sessions are not serving you, I welcome conversations about our cadence.
I offer both 50-minute and 75-minute sessions and recommend the extended sessions for couples.
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Experiential therapy means that we are working with the present moment, often in an “emotional experience”. I typically work with both individuals and couples on bringing more awareness to their bodies and emotions in the present moment during our sessions.
I believe the more I can help you understand your emotional process, the more you can slow yourself down outside of session, gaining more control over your reactions and interactions with others. This also means I am not a “tools” therapist. I don’t often offer advice or tools to “solve” problems.
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Yes, research shows that virtual therapy is just as effective as in-person therapy, even for deep emotional and relational work like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
Attachment-based therapy relies on building safety, emotional attunement, and genuine connection—qualities that translate powerfully through video. Many individuals and couples actually find it easier to open up and access vulnerable emotions from the comfort and privacy of their own home environment.
To make online sessions seamless and secure, all you need is a private space, a stable internet connection, and a device with a camera. We use a HIPAA-compliant, encrypted video platform to ensure your sessions remain completely confidential.
Fees, Insurance, & Logistics
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If you are paying out-of-pocket or using out-of-network benefits, sessions cost $170 per 50 minute individual session and $185/$270 per 50/75 minute couples session.
Payment is due at the time of service via credit card, HSA, or FSA card.
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I am an in-network provider exclusively with BCBS PPO. If out-of-network, I can provide a monthly Superbill for you to submit to your insurance company for potential reimbursement.
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Consistent presence is key to building security and momentum in therapy. I require 48 hours notice for cancellations. Appointments canceled late or missed without notice will be charged the standard session fee.
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I offer secure telehealth sessions for clients located in Illinois and Colorado. Unfortunately, I am unable to offer in-person services at this time.
Couples Therapy FAQs
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Because every relationship has its own unique history and pace, there isn't a one-size-fits-all timeline. However, because I practice Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) — a highly structured, scientifically validated approach—we aren't just meandering through weekly complaints. We are working through a clear, three-stage process to map and transform your relationship dynamics.
For most couples, a standard course of EFT takes anywhere from 12 to 30 sessions (typically spanning 6 to 9 months). Although it’s not uncommon that I see clients for several years.
Please visit our Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) page to learn more about the process.
What can speed up or slow down the process?
Couples who practice stepping out of their negative cycles at home between sessions often move through therapy faster. On the other hand, if your relationship is healing from deep injuries like an infidelity, a major betrayal, or years of emotional detachment, it naturally takes more time to rebuild that foundational trust safely.
Our ultimate goal isn't to keep you in therapy forever; it's to build the emotional safety necessary to eventually become each other's best resource.
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Because Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) works with deep emotional patterns rather than surface-level fixes, traditional 50-minute sessions can sometimes feel rushed for couples.I typically recommend extended 75-minute sessions* for couples for our initial appointment and at the beginning of our work together to allow time to de-escalate conflict and create meaningful emotional shifts before you leave session.
I also recommend that we schedule sessions weekly at the start of services as consistency often creates “traction” needed to change long-standing relationship habits. As our work goes on, biweekly sessions might feel more appropriate and we can discuss this change when necessary.
*Please note extended sessions are not typically covered by in-network insurance benefits.
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It is incredibly common for one partner to feel nervous, skeptical, or protective about starting couples counseling. Often, the reluctant partner worries they will be blamed, ganged up on, or told they are "the problem."
Our Approach: In EFT, the enemy is the Cycle, not either partner.
A Neutral Space: My office is a strictly non-judgmental zone. I do not take sides. My job is to understand both of your perspectives entirely.
The Invitation: If your partner is on the fence, invite them to come to an initial consultation. They can see how my approach feels and decide if it feels safe enough to continue. There is no pressure or forced commitment.
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Many couples come to therapy expecting to be given a communication checklist, a set of behavioral rules, or "I-feel" statement scripts to practice at home. The problem with a purely tool-based approach is simple: when you are in the middle of a heated argument at 10:00 PM, your brain enters survival mode. The panic takes over, and every single communication worksheet you learned flies straight out the window.
Instead of teaching you how to argue more politely, I use Experiential Therapy (specifically through Emotionally Focused Therapy).
"Experiential" means we do the actual work in the room, in real time. We don't just talk about your fights from last week; we look at what is happening between you right now in the session. I help you slow down, drop beneath the surface anger, and actually feel and express the deeper vulnerabilities—like the fear of failure or rejection—that drive your relationship's negative loop.
We aren't practicing a script for the future; we are creating a live, corrective emotional experience during our time together. When you change how you feel and react to each other in the safety of the office, that safety naturally follows you home. You won’t need to look at a worksheet to communicate effectively, because the underlying ground your relationship is built on will finally be secure.